Book Summary

Book Summary ** Our lives, after the diagnosis and subsequent treatment, of my husband for a brain tumor, clearly have taken a path less traveled. Yet our journey has and continues to be, a journey of hope, joy and of unyeilding commitment. We invite you into our lives, a view of our childhood, marriage, a marriage seperate from convention, yet strongly bound. Join us as we recall the last twenty-five years, twenty of which have been spent LIVING with a brain tumor. Come, witness our challenges and discover our triumphs as we reinvent our relationship, struggle to redefine marriage roles, communication styles, and reclaim intimacy after illness.

Wednesday, October 12, 2016

We Started a New Chapter and Didn't Share

It has been so long that it took me a while to determine how to get access and write this post..   Well I am back and have lots to share.  Lots of changes in our lives over the past few years.  Last post January 13, 2014.

Since this blog is about living with a brain tumor I have to say that Ron is living and doing really well.
Here is a synopsis of the past few years

June 2014 - we decided to move back to NH
July 2014 - house on the market and it sold in less than 10 days
September 2014 - moved to Milton NH
May 2015 - my Dad died from Non-Hodgkin's Lymphona
January 2016 - Ron gets a "come back in year" status on his MRI
April 2016 - Company I work for goes through joint venture, I do the same job with Netsmart now.

There have been Niece and Nephew weddings, along with births of great nieces and nephews.  Our siblings and their spouses are so happy being grandparents.  Are we really that old that we too could have grandchildren?

Carol and Dad at Erin's wedding
Each of these events deserved a post or two but reminiscing through the significance of these events makes me take pause and grateful for all the experiences we have had.  At times you just don't know how you are going to get through them but here we are, able to look back and say wow.

The most impact has been the move back to NH and all that entailed and then the death of my Dad.   I am so grateful that my job allows me to work from home and the flexibility that allows. It made packing up and making the move possible.  We were here for Dad's appointments and helped him till the very end.  Once a nurse, always a nurse.  Both events have shaped my outlook on life. Along the way we recognize that our families are wonderful and we have met some amazing people who have helped with these major life changes. Their kindness and friendship, irreplaceable.

Momma Kitty and Bob's sweatshirt 
I am one who does not pray in the traditional sense but rather state my troubles/worries/concerns and ask the universe to help guide me on the path.  We left Florida on the 1st anniversary of my Brother Bob's death.  I placed not only my Momma Kitty in the back of the SUV but also my brother's old sweatshirt and a softball momento and said, please take us home safely and make our house sell soon. The sale was being handled by some dear realtor friends This was the trip we were making to go to NH for my niece's wedding and this was 10 days after we had put the house up for sale.  Before arriving in Lexington SC after the first day of driving, we got a call that we had the house under contract.  And the remainder of the trip was uneventful.  Universe, angels or perhaps a prayer, lots of things can happen to those who put it out there and have faith.  I do have to say the logistics of the following month took a lot of energy and faith.

Ron an AJ
Betty the former home owner.
We stayed in Lexington with our friends, Patti and Carol.  Patti has been a survivor for 10 years and has a bond with Ron that is unbreakable.  Their grandson AJ has an affinity for Ron and he communicates with Ron better than most adults.  I share this with you for a reason.  When we were out looking for  houses, we  were drawn to this home in Milton.  On meeting the owner we asked where they were moving to, their answer Lexington SC.  Oh and our Mortgage broker is AJ and the owner's sister died of a brain tumor.  At some point you have to know the universe is speaking to you.  And your on the right path.

This is just a post to get me started again.  I have more to share and will let you know that having hope is essential to keep you going.