Book Summary

Book Summary ** Our lives, after the diagnosis and subsequent treatment, of my husband for a brain tumor, clearly have taken a path less traveled. Yet our journey has and continues to be, a journey of hope, joy and of unyeilding commitment. We invite you into our lives, a view of our childhood, marriage, a marriage seperate from convention, yet strongly bound. Join us as we recall the last twenty-five years, twenty of which have been spent LIVING with a brain tumor. Come, witness our challenges and discover our triumphs as we reinvent our relationship, struggle to redefine marriage roles, communication styles, and reclaim intimacy after illness.
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Saturday, December 3, 2011

Recent trip to Boston for MRI

It's our turn for PMS - pre-MRI syndrome. Ron had an MRI 12/1 and a follow-up Dr J appt. I have not felt comfortable with the way he is walking, dragging his affected leg. I had been making excuses for the past 2 months and really just need answers. Reality stinks but it is the only way to deal with this. Facing the fear that he may need surgery, again. At minimum perhaps be able to drain some cyst fluid. Or maybe he needs some regular exercise, which he has been without since we have been in NH. You think after 20 years of this, I would cope better. Hoping for the best outcome and answers.

OK here is a synopsis of the day. Stayed at Michele's in Jamaica Plains, cozy and quick non stress drive to hospital. MRI on time, Ron napped during procedure. Dropped of copy of book at patient resource center. Off to donate platelets, parking validated and former Patriot there doing PR for the Kraft Donor Center. Gave donor center copy of Hope along with the communications folks doing the PR.  Determined to share with everyone.   Also provided one to the gift shop in hopes they will sell them there.
Met with Dr J and all is stable. Thought Ron's idea of an ankle brace is a good idea to help him walk better.  

We have been told for 20 years that Ron has a gr ii-iii astrocytoma. Yesterday, better news, they gave us a report that it is a glial neoplasm with ganglian cells. Huh? Categrized as a low grade, pretty rare and typically seen in children. ...Dr J has seen only 11 folks with this type of tumor, only 1 of the 11 had it progress to higher stage. The location and the radiation has caused his deficits. The cysts that he and has had surgery for come from both the tumor and or the weakened brain blood vessels and tissue.
I have to thank BCF for the encouragement to get definitive answers for the questions you helped me formulate on this visit. Don't think I have not asked before but I needed answers from this new surgeon who had done surgery last year.

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Our story as posted on FB groups

 I call it our story because Ron is unable to. Thankfully it is a long one so i will provide some highlights. 20 years ago Ron started complaining of dizziness and was walking into things. I assumed he was having problems with his ears. We had gone SCUBA diving and thought he had damaged his ear dr...um equalizing. He went to see an (ENT) Ear Nost and Throat doctor. As a nurse I typically skip the family practicioner and send him to the specialist. The ENT sent him for an MRI to rule out an acoutic neuroma. Not a great diagnosis but it soon got worse. The neurologist on call at the hospital got Ron's films and immediately called us. I knew it was not good news when a doc you don't know calls you and says to make an appt as soon as possible.

We arrived at her office and I immediately knew when I saw the films that that thing in his brain did not belong there. That was the beginning of our brain tumor journey. An astrocytoma grII-III. 20 years later, radiation, 7 surgeries, more MRI's than I can begin to remember, loss of function in his right side, aphasia, visual changes, seizures, therapy, blood tests, falls and tiredness to make any one give up hope. Not us. He is LIVING with this and each year that we hear all is stable we are reminded how fortunate we are. He is the billboard of courage. It has been difficult watching him slowly loose function in his right side. But he has taught himself how to do everything with the left and continue to walk despite the weakness. The worst part of this is his aphasia. I would love for him to be able to read, share his own story, tell me how he is feeling, tell me what he needs. We have adapted to that loss too.

I would not have learned so much about life and living, hope and love without him. My passion is to share our story and to reach out to others to offer hope and love. We have published a memoir, Hope through the Eyes of Love. I would love to share it with each of you. So glad to be a part of this group and look forward to sharing your journey with you.

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

July 2011

July is a significant month in our life.  20 years ago we saw the MRI film and heard those words that is a brain tumor in the temporal lobe.  17 years ago Ron's Dad died at the end of July after his battle with prostate cancer.  Ron's Dad told us that his wish was that Ron would live a long life despite his tumor.  Ron honored that wish and has never given up. 
I celebrate my birthday in July and make a wish every year as I blow out my candles on my ice cream cake that I will have Ron at my side for my next birthday.  Last July that cake tasted so good because Ron had made it through yet one more surgery.  In preparation to celebrate this year I started the process of getting our book published.  Here we are a year later and I can't wait to blow out those candles.  Thanks for joining me on this journey and your support in this endeavor.